PRAY FOR AMERICA

Nothing, absolutely nothing,
happens in God’s world by accident.
God doesn’t make mistakes
These words are the cornerstone of my belief system. They come from my ‘other’ bible, the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous. These words are the inspiration for my personal recovery, both physically and spiritually. It’s difficult to apply these words to yesterday’s horror in Texas, however. I spent some time in the armed services and went through combat in Viet Nam.

I can understand the need to take lives to protect one’s self and those whose lives are entrusted to you. I can understand police activity that involves the use of deadly force in order to “protect the domestic tranquility“. I understand that this is part of the world in which we live and I trust that these actions are all part of a plan, the nature of which I do not have the need or ability to know.

What I’m having a difficult time wrapping my head around this morning, is the purpose in the killings and wounding of unarmed people who were waiting in line to defend me and our country. I’m having difficulty accepting this terror as part of a plan of my loving, benevolent God. It all seems so senseless.

It’s things like this that really test my faith in God and His plan. I have to fight off the instinct to demand explanations and insist that this horror make sense. I truly have difficulty letting God take care of His world and my part in it.

What I have to remember is that I’m understanding exactly everything I’m supposed to at this time. I’m exactly where I am supposed to be right now. I’m who I am meant to be, right now.

There is a purpose. There is a plan. And there is no reason to believe that anything is not precisely as it is supposed to be in God’s world.

Dear God, thank you for granting me ignorance of Your wisdom, the gift of pain and grief, and the benefit of Your love. I trust You , absolutely. I ask that You provide these victims and those around them only that ignorance, pain and grief, and love they are able to benefit from. May the teaching of Jesus the Nazarene guide us through these next few days. Amen.

VETERAN'S DAY 2009

"Let us give thanks to God for the land of our birth with all its chartered liberties. For all the wonder of our country's story:

Reprise: WE GIVE YOU THANKS, O GOD.

For leaders in nation and state, and for those who in days past and in these present times have labored for the commonwealth:

Reprise: WE GIVE YOU THANKS, O GOD.

For those who in all times and places have been true and brave, and in the world's common ways have lived upright lives and ministered to their fellows:

Reprise: WE GIVE YOU THANKS, O GOD.

For those who served their country in its hour of need, and especially for those who gave even their lives in that service:

Reprise: WE GIVE YOU THANKS, O GOD.

O almighty God and most merciful Father, as we remember these your servants, remembering with gratitude their courage and strength, we hold before you those who mourn them. Look upon your bereaved servants with your mercy. As this day brings them memories of those they have lost awhile, may it also bring your consolation and the assurance that their loved ones are alive now and forever in your living presence."

GOD BLESS AMERICA AND THOSE WHO GUARD OUR FREEDOMS

Shame on Maine

Well, as expected, the fear mongers and promoters of ignorance succeeded in clouding the issues and convinced Mainers to violate the civil liberties of a whole segment of our population. That's right, like it or not, homosexuals are a growing segment of our population and they don't have equal protection under the law.

In fact, marriage it is a civil matter requiring a government license, and recorded in a government courthouse. Marriages are civil actions with civil rights and regulations. There is nothing “church”, religious, scriptural, or sacred, about it. If this is confusing, try to get married without a marriage license issued by a government officer.

Everyone who wants to believe that a wedding is sacred is welcome so to do and they would be supported by scripture and most churches. However, some time in the distant past, marriages were confused with weddings which are preformed by clergy and sanctified by God. And this somehow transformed a civil act into a religious one.

It is possible for the government to recognize and protect civil rights to equal protection under the law without clouding the issue with religious interference. No one can perform a marriage without special government permission, even clergy. Judges, Justices of the Peace, Clerks of Courts, some wardens of prisons, and a variety of other civil officials can perform marriages. Even ship's captains can do it. WHY? Because these people, by virtue of their civil authority, have permission from the government. Some (albeit, most) clergy can marry people, too. But it has nothing to do with their religious affiliation, religious beliefs, or God. All clergy must present their credentials to a government authority to be reviewed and judged to be sufficient. Even when a couple is wedded by a member of the clergy, that clergy must sign the official government document for the marriage to be valid.

So what have the voters of Maine done to "protect" the institution of marriage? Nothing! Nothing but restrict a segment of Maine residents from being afforded the same civil rights as others. All of the scriptural, spiritual, religious, and moral arguments do nothing but obscure the fact that some of Maine's residents continue to be blocked from exercising their constitutionally guaranteed right to equal protection under the law.

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Two things crossed my desk today, each from my home town of Brewer Maine. The first was an email from a former classmate apprising me of the death of another classmate from High School. The other was an announcement that the Boy Scouts Troop of which I was a member had turned 100 years old. Both of these news items, together, combined to cause a rush of memories of my childhood.
Brenda's death touched me far deeper than any friendship we had during High School. I recall several opportunities when I could have been a better friend and wasn't. You see, Brenda was physically challenged to the point that she eventually became a quadriplegic. She was handicapped even more by the ignorance and intolerance of the community and sometimes me. I don't make apologies for my behavior, or lack of action, to be more specific. I was a kid and moved in different circles than did Brenda. But on the occasions when our paths did cross, I was frequently less than kind and sometimes downright hurtful.
I would love to rationalize my behavior away as that of a young kid who didn't know any better. The problem is, though, I did know better. I was raised to know better. I had been a jerk and knew it. As happens, Brenda and I never connected again after High School, both she and I moved away, me to the Navy, Viet Nam, and marriage, and she (I just found out) to State government, where she was a driving force in Maine becoming aware of the handicapped and their special needs.
Call it karma, fate, or destiny, but 40+ years later I do have the opportunity to atone for whatever slights I did to Brenda. Some of you may know that my wife is now handicapped and dependent on my assistance for her daily needs. God does work in mysterious ways.
The second piece of news was about Boy Scout Troop reaching the 100 year milestone. As a boy and continuing into my teens I was involved in scouting. I was a Cub Scout, Boy Scout (in Troop 1) and an Explorer Scout. These organizations made up much of my 'out of family' life as a child. What I remember most was the freedom to make mistakes, with the expectation that we learned from those mistakes. Each week we were expected to show up at a meeting, dress a certain way, be clean and act right. We performed rituals that included attention to God and Country. We learned to undertake tasks with the expectation that we completed these tasks on time and in the desired format. Our leaders made no secret that the Scouts was a place to learn how to be a 'man'. Weaknesses were challenged but never exploited. Leadership qualities were encouraged and rewarded. We (I) learned that being a good follower was also OK.
I'm not sure that these qualities are taught today. I wonder if children are encouraged to try new things with the possibility of failure. I sometimes see parents talk of failure as a four letter word. The ability to fail builds character. We were allowed to put ourselves in harms way, under supervision, and when we failed, it was a learning opportunity, not a time for ridicule. I still have the scars from a fall onto the “big rockies” while on an Explorer outing to Beach Hill Lake. I was fearless and careless. I lost my footing on a boulder and opened up my knee. Our leader, Gardner Reed, had to leave the group and take me home. I felt terrible. Not for the cut and new stitches, but because I would have to suffer the teasing from my friends. The teasing lasted about a day, the lessons from that day still serve me today.
Recently it seems that the only time I hear about friends from High School is in the obituaries. I guess that is to expected, but not welcomed. I am a better person because of the Scouts. And I can now understand how my choices very often result in consequences unimaginable at the time.

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I belong to CBI and hope you will, too

IF I MAY HAVE YOUR ATTENTION FOR A MOMENT

I was shopping at the local supermarket yesterday and happened to overhear a conversation between a couple. This would not be remarkable except that they were speaking English. And that would not be remarkable unless you remember that I live in Mexico.

Ken and Michele Trapnell are, it turns out, missionaries in a small town south of here. We had a very enjoyable conversation and agreed to exchange email address and web site info.

Over the last two days I have researched this couple and their commitment to Mexico and to Jesus Christ. Both are solid and strong. So here is the reason for this message.

Support this mission!!!

Mexico Medical Missions delivers the goods.

They walk the talk, it's that simple

Please check out their web site.

So, when you're in the next meeting of your church group or social club, or even if you have a calling to help on a personal level, remember Mexico Medical Missions as a place where your energy and resourses will have a maximum impact.

Also, please feel free to forward this message to your contacts across the web. Thanks


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FINAL ESSAY FOR THE COURSE
THE FOUR GOSPELS
REV. ROBERT JAMES SHAND MS, D.DIV.
http://freechurch.faithweb.com

As a minister of The Free Church of Universal Life, I have a close personal connection to all of the gospels of Jesus the Nazarene. This course both challenged and frustrated me on several levels. After many years of study and research of the “alternate” gospels, I found myself confronted with this seemingly simple interpretation of the four traditionally accepted gospels. The text presented these books in a way that was both simplistic and enlightening. This text even further confirmed my belief that there was only one source for all of these gospels. As presented, the gospels are almost a verbatim narration of one story that was circulated throughout early Christendom. This is not surprising, however. When Jesus sent his followers out to teach in His name, they took with them the oral narrative of the life of Jesus. And in at least one situation, this narrative was written down and circulated to the early Church. The original version of this written story is lost to history. But what we now read as the four gospels of the Bible, I believe, is a close approximation of that early text. That the 4th century Christian leaders who met to determine the “true” Bible saw these four narratives as inspired by God is not that difficult to understand. Imagine being in a crowded room with hundreds of people, each with particular points of view and a cannons of beliefs that seem either too conservative or liberal to those you profess. And during these weeks and months of deliberations four stories seem to surface, each from a different country, written in a different language, and each being put forth as the “truth”. In those days, only one or two generations away from paganism and polytheism in Rome, seeing four documents stating essentially the same exact thing must have seem divine. After much discussion and debate, these early Christian leaders could agree that these four nearly identical stories must present the true account of the life and ministry of Jesus.
This theory is not intended to diminish the importance of the Word. It only highlights the need to read and understand other narratives of the teachings of Jesus. I believe that Jesus the Nazarene was, and is, the Messiah sent by God, the Creator. But, the four gospels do not present the entire teachings of Jesus. In recent history we have been able to see and read other documents which shed more light on Jesus the Nazarene and his life and teachings. These new texts allow for a rethink of the four traditional gospels. It is important to note that none of the new documents suggest anything that pulls the gospels into question or that might diminish Jesus and his teachings. The one exception might be that Jesus may not have actually died on the cross and ascended to heaven, but lived to marry and have children. Even if that was true, it doesn't take away from His message. But that is another essay.

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ON FAITH AND FACTS
Some may ask why this discussion needs to be revisited. We all know the differences between these terms. Don't we?
Well, apparently not. In researching the literature for my upcoming book, SAY WHAT YOU MEAN-MEAN WHAT YOU SAY1, I found that even today, in the age of electronic everything, people are still compelled to blur these terms to fit their own agenda.
FAITH is what we hope to be true. We do not need any facts to back up our FAITH. As a matter of fact, if there were to be facts available to prove the point, we wouldn't need FAITH. We have FAITH in information we receive from outside sources. Someone, either in person, through the electronic media or in the written word, has told us something and we BELIEVE them and have FAITH that the information is true. What they have to say may be pure fantasy or it may be based on a pseudo-science such as astrology or Tarot readings, or, in the case of we Christians, the information we have FAITH in comes from the writings about Jesus the Nazarene. Whatever the source, it sounds good and offers to meet some unmet need and we attach value to it and have FAITH that it will turn out our advantage. Much of the time it is based loosely on mythology or “traditional History”.2 Some of the time it is based on the teachings of a mystic, guru, prophet, or even God. But no matter how much of these stories come from an oral tradition, text books, or religious doctrine, something appeals to us and we have FAITH in the message. We want it to be true and in FAITH, we impose “TRUTH” on the message. As a result, we oftentimes profess that what we have FAITH in (BELIEVE in) is TRUTH. As a result, TRUTH then is the internalization of these stories from outside sources which we BELIEVE and assign them to be TRUE. What we BELIEVE is TRUTH. When many people have FAITH in a message and BELIEVE it to be true, they frequently band together in this common, shared BELIEF. When the BELIEF concerns God we call these groups religions, and when the common belief concerns the life and teachings of Jesus the Nazarene we are known collectively as Christians.
The accounts written in what we call the New Testament are a few of the stories, mythology, and folktales about Jesus the Nazarene. As science advances we are slowly being able to see and study other stories and mythologies about Jesus from outside sources. We have manuscripts, books, and other archaeological evidence that Jesus probably lived, that He was a devotee of the Essene sect of Jews, that he was a rabbi and teacher, and that He rebelled against the establishment. He was a radical left wing pain in the side of the established Temple hierarchy. It was this hierarchy who manipulated the Roman government, and as a result, Jesus was sentenced to death.
We also have 2000 years of the continuous, uninterrupted FAITH in Jesus' teachings, HIS life as the message and HIS divinity. Not bad for a man who, during HIS entire ministry, only actually spoke to a few thousand people in a small, relatively unimportant part of the world and in a language spoken by only a handful of people. Today a preacher can go on television and speak directly to millions of people. What would Jesus think of that? I believe that HE would be (and is) extremely upset at the misinformation and manipulative messages being broadcast.
We have this Heritage of FAITH because a few of Jesus' followers thought that what He had to say was important enough to jot down some quotes and to write a few letters. But we don't have any facts to back up these stories and accounts of HIS life. Just because someone says so, doesn't make it so. “What if several people say so? Doesn't that make it so”, you may ask. Well, only if you are willing to admit that the world was actually flat right up to the point that it was proved a sphere. After all, everyone BELIEVED it to be flat and therefore it must be so.
Fortunately, we don't need to prove anything. Facts are fun but unnecessary when it come to Jesus the Nazarene. Jesus, you see, never asks us to BELIEVE anything. He never says “ I want to you to trust Me” or “BELIEVE in Me”. Jesus states , with authority, “I am the way!” He doesn't 'ask' us to do anything. He tells us that if we want salvation we must follow HIM. Jesus does not offer qualifiers like “if, and, or, but”. He doesn't hint, suggest, or elude, He simply states that He is the “way”. And, how do we know this is true, that he said these things? Because we have FAITH that the stories written in the New Testament are accurate representations of what Jesus actually said and did. And we have these stories from at least four separate, independent sources. And we have 2000 years of continued reliance on the accuracy of these stories, past down from generation to generation, first in an oral history and later in the written word.
Facts are fun, but FAITH is forever. Facts change as science continues to uncover the physical mysteries of this world. Someday maybe someone will find the facts that disprove the existence of Jesus. Even if that should occur, the message from Jesus the Nazarene would continue to be valid. His teaching of love, patience, and salvation through baptism and the forgiveness of sins through confession and absolution will go on.
1Due out in Fall 2009
2A term I made up to represent the stories and other oral traditions of our heritage, family, or tribe.


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THE MARINE

THE MARINE

We all came together,
Both young and old
To fight for our freedom,
To stand and be bold.

In the midst of all evil,
We stand our ground,
And we protect our country
From all terror around.

Peace and not war,
Is what some people say.
But I'll give my life,
So you can live the American way

I give you the right
To talk of your peace.
To stand in your groups,
and protest in our streets.

But still I fight on,
I don't fuss, I don't whine.
I'm just one of the people!
Who is doing your time.

I'm harder than nails,
Stronger than any machine.
I'm the immortal soldier,
I'm a U.S. MARINE!

So stand in my shoes,
And leave from your home.
Fight for the people who hate you,
With the protests they've shown.
Fight for the stranger,
Fight for the young.
So they all may have,
The greatest freedom you've won

Fight for the sick,
Fight for the poor
Fight for the cripple,
Who lives next door.

But when your time comes,
Do what I've done.
For if you stand up for freedom,
You'll stand when the fight's done

By: Corporal Aaron M. Gilbert, US Marine Corps
USS SAIPAN, PERSIAN GULF

Hey Dad,
Do me a favor and label this 'The Marine' and send it to everybody on your email list. Even leave this letter in it. I want this rolling all over the US ; I want every home reading it. Every eye seeing it. And every heart to feel it. So can you please send this for me? I would but my email time isn't that long and I don 't have much time anyway.
You know what Dad? I wondered what it would be like to truly understand what JFK said in His inaugural speech. 'When the time comes to lay down my life for my country, I do not cower from this responsibility. I welcome it.' Well, now I know. And I do. Dad, I welcome the opportunity to do what I do. Even though I have left behind a beautiful wife, and I will miss the birth of our first born child, I would do it 70 times over to fight for the place that God has made for my home. I love you all and I miss you very much. I wish I could be there when Sandi has our baby, but tell her that I love her, and Lord willing, I will be coming home soon.Give Mom a great big hug from me and give one to yourself too.
Aaron

Please let this marine (and all our military) know we care by passing his poem onto your friends even if you don't usually take time to forward mail...do it this time!
Thanks,
Let's help Aaron's dad spread the word .... FREEDOM isn't FREE Someone pays for you and me.

IN MY HUMBLE OPINION

There were two causalities in the War on Terrorism on Monday. Pvt. William Long was killed and Pvt. Quinton Ezeagwula was wounded in a attack on a military outpost by a Muslim extremist.

The facts are clear. Abdulhakim Bledsoe, aka Abdulhakim Mujahid Muhammad, armed with at least three firearms and, according to his own statements to police, acted on his religious beliefs as a practicing Muslim by driving by a military recruiting outpost in Little Rock, Arkansas and firing as many as sixteen shoots at the young, unarmed soldiers standing outside the office.

Pvt. Long was killed and Pvt. Ezeagwula was wounded in action as a direct result of enemy fire. Little Rock or Baghdad, it doesn't matter. They are causalities of armed aggression against the United States by a Muslim terrorist. They deserve the Purple Heart and to be listed as casualties of war.

Bledsoe is an enemy combatant and as such does not, and should not, have the civil protection of the constitution. He should be charged with acts of terrorism against the United States, confined in a military prison and afforded the same treatment as all other enemy combatants in the War on Terrorism.

Rev. Robert James Shand, MS. DD
Ciudad Victoria, Tamaulipas, Mexico "people should have to pay to go to church and theater should be free"

These people were there for me! Be there for todays servicemen and women

Vietnam Vet giving back by helping wounded soldiers.
Dr. Donald Hall a veteran of the Vietnam war has published a novel. The book sells online at most of the major bookstores, Amazon.com, Barnes and Nobles, Books a Million, Indie Books, Authorhouse.com bookstore. Disney is looking into a possible movie from the book series. The title to the book is "The Cross-Over Chronicles" by D.L.Hall.
With every book that is sold he is donating a large percentage of the profit to
The National Rehabilitation Hospital in Washington DC to help the soldiers who have been severely wounded in the war overseas to date.
Get the book it is a good story and helps a great cause. Thanks

URGENT MESSAGE

Hola, from beautiful, warm and SAFE, Mexico. I watch with interest the reports on travel to Mexico. As you may imagine, I watch and read everything about traveling to Mexico because I tutor people on how to retire here.
It is true that drug dealers and the people who smuggle illegals into the States are at war with each other and sometimes the police. And it is true that EVERYONE needs to take precautions against becoming a victim of street crime. That goes for Mexico as well as Maine and every other of the United States. The crime rates in the States is rising and violent crime leads the list.
I have lived in Mexico for 2 years now and not only do I feel right at home, I feel very safe in town and traveling withing the country. Since I don't use drugs, sell drugs, coyote illegals across the border, nor do I associate with those that do, I am at a very low risk of the types of crime sensationalized in the media. Crime is always here as in every place else. People here need to be diligent and aware, just like those in Philadelphia or New Haven to minimize the potential for being victimized.
I encourage everyone who wants a pleasant, fun, exciting retirement in the sun to come here to live. For those looking for a respite, come to Mexico, bring your money, spend it wisely, and then go home to tell all of your friends how much fun you had and how inexpensive Mexico is as a tourist destination.
However, if your goal is to buy and sell drugs, get sloppy drunk, flash your wealth, be overly promiscuous, and generally act like an ass, STAY HOME. You will most likely be part of the next headline.

Why Counseling

WHEN FAITH ISN'T ENOUGH
(Or at least it seems that way)

Prayer, meditation, fasting, and other forms of spiritual cleansing are each, in their own way, forms of internal self-talk that we all use to make sense of the events of our lives. Most of the time we don't even know that is what we are doing. Somewhere in our history we have been taught how to cope with stressful situations. Some us were taught to pray for guidance. Some have been told that meditation and fasting will lead to peace of mind. Others of us were taught that stress is best dealt with by chemical intervention, legal and otherwise. Of course, not all of these methods are effective all of the time. At least, not to our level of expectation. Sometimes, even after doing what we know has worked in the past, we find that we are still unsatisfied. Our needs are left unmet. The most common reason that these methods are not always effective is because they rely on the individual to have the insight and strength to carry on alone. When we get stuck in the loop of stress and disappointment we need to get outside of ourselves and involve another. One of the best ways to do this is to visit our spiritual guide. Most minister, pastors, priests, etc. have some training and expertise in counseling people through stress. There are also groups of professional counselors who have specific education, training and skills, some of which use a spiritual and/or biblical approach.

HOW DO I KNOW WHEN I NEED A COUNSELOR?
There is no easy answer to this question. Only you can know when you have done all that you know how to do and still are not satisfied. Some of us go immediately to a spiritual guide when things get stressful. Some go inside ourselves and pray or meditate for guidance. And some of us go inside of a bottle. A professional counselor can be the next best option. First of all they are uniquely qualified to do the job. Next, they are bound by ethical mandates of confidentiality. And, sometimes most importantly, they can act as a disinterested third party who can give honest feedback, insight, and confrontation, allowing you to see your issues from another point of view. To gain perspective, so to speak. Oftentimes this new perspective is the key to resolving your stress.

WHERE DO I FIND A COUNSELOR?
When we are experiencing stress, we oftentimes become concerned that others will see us as weak and vulnerable. This makes it difficult to ask for help. Who do you trust? Your family? Pastor? Friends? When the answer is difficult to find, get out the BOOK. No, not that one, although it never hurts to consult the Bible for answers, the book here is the Yellow Pages. Go to the “Marriage and Family Counselors” or “Mental Health” sections and go down the list. Do you recognize any of the names? Did someone you know use one of these agencies? Are any of them specifically offering a Christian or Bible based approach? If none of the names stand out, pick up the phone and call the agency who's ad grabs your attention. You need to ask these three questions:

Do you have Christian counselors available?
What are your fees? Do you have a sliding fee schedule? What, if any, insurance do you accept?
Are your counselors licensed or certified in any way?

The ideal match would be a Christian counselor who is licensed or certified, who is able to provide services you can afford without adding to your stress.

WHAT SHOULD I EXPECT FROM A COUNSELOR?
When you are “in counseling” you are in it 24/7, not just the 50 minutes you are with the counselor. Your counselor will only be able to help you with the issues you bring with you to the sessions. Some counselors are clever and can sometimes “trick” you into areas you are trying to avoid. But, here it is, it's your dime! You can decide to jump into the deep end right away and get down to it, or you can hem and haw at $$ an hour, waiting for the counseling to “work”. If you choose the later approach, don't be surprised if the counselor asks you to come back when you're ready to work.
Write down what it is you are feeling, thinking, and looking for as an outcome of the counseling before coming to the first session. Your counselor may even ask you to complete an intake questionnaire, inviting you to explain your background and current situation. Be as specific as you can. The more you can get your issues out and onto paper, the quicker you can get down to work in the sessions.
Counseling sessions take may forms. The most common is the office interview, conversation style. You and the counselor discuss your issues in a quiet, comfortable room. The counselor may ask open ended questions in an attempt to guide you through a particular point. You may be asked to talk about your belief system and how your beliefs effects your issues. Don't be surprised if you are asked to describe your relationships. Sometimes how we relate to others explains a lot about how we deal with stress. And you should expect homework to be completed between sessions. This may be a journal, notes to yourself, questionnaires or worksheets, etc. Or, you may be asked to read something or watch a video. Let's face it. You are in counseling because what you have always done to deal with stress has failed. You need to learn something new. Knowledge is the key to changing beliefs. And beliefs are the framework of our behavior. It's as simple as “A,B,C”.
A- Activating Event
B- Belief/Behavior
C- Consequences
Something happens, we make choices based on our beliefs about the event which lead to behaviors, and there are consequences associated with our choices/behaviors. These consequences become the next activating events and the whole cycle begins again. If, at any point in this process we take a detour or are confronted with a roadblock we can't get around, we can spin out of control. What we “know” no longer provides relief. What we believe comes into question, and what we do is based on faulty logic. It is this faulty logic that a counselor can discover and help you get back on track.

WHAT COUNSELING CAN'T DO

FIX IT! Counseling can not “fix” anything. Only you can do that. Your counselor can only point out some of your faulty logic which is clouding your choice making ability.
MAKE IT GO AWAY! Your stress is a naturally occurring result of some event that your prior coping mechanisms are not able to deal with. If fact, you don't want the stress to go away, unresolved. It will be there in the background, eating away at your self confidence and self esteem. Skin conditions, heart problems, nervous tics, and high blood pressure are oftentimes the result of unresolved stress. You must deal with it.
CURE YOU! Happily, stress is one of those conditions that we have the ability to “cure” ourselves, with assistance. Once you have determined the cause of the stress, you can take steps to reduce the symptoms and avoid their return. Your new knowledge and understanding will lead to changes in your belief system. These changes in your beliefs will lead to changes in the way you view the world and how these events effect you. And, consequently, this new perspective on the world will result in better choices when similar events occur in the future.

WHAT ABOUT MY FAITH?
It is possible that some of your beliefs about God, Jesus, and religion will be challenged. Don't worry, God can take it. Jesus will never be hurt by your questions. And your religious beliefs can always use a little tweaking. If they are true, they will be your base, your support system, your foundation. If they let you down, maybe they weren't true in the first place. If you are a Baptist, Methodist, Catholic, or whatever, because your parents were, or you belong to a church whose focus has turned away from the faith it had when you joined, it maybe time for a change. At least it's time for a review of your core values. If, during the counseling process you are suddenly confronted with a crisis of faith you have the obligation to tell the counselor this. A faith-based counselor will be able to guide you. You may be asked to join like minded people for group sessions dealing with this specific issue.

Acceptance is the key. Never, absolutely never, does anything happen in God's world by accident.1

God don't make mistakes. And God doesn't answer to us. We answer to Him

1Paraphrased from the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous

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Allright, Already

As you may know, I have recently been ordained as a Minister. With that ordination has come many more people reading my writings. And, as some of my writings contain words that some believe are offensive, I feel a need to comment.

Words are just words. They neither enlighten nor offend. They only have the meaning we assign to them. It is the user that determines whether a word enlightens or offends, does neither, or both. The same word, when used in a different context can have the exact opposite effect.

When I write stories, the characters tell me what they say and I write those words down. I know that that sounds like a cop out, but that's how it happens for me. Some of my characters sometimes use words that even I find offensive. But that is how that character talks and I feel a need to be true to him/her in the story.

So, to my newly found brothers and sisters who are questioning my faith and calling, please understand that I do not intend to insult or offend you in any way. Feel free to condemn my characters for their blasphemy or whatever, but please remember that they are just words, offered for your entertainment.

"people should have to pay to go to church and theater should be free"

Sometimes I just have to say it

Sometimes I answer questions on Yahoo. Most of the time it's about traveling to Mexico. But today one of the questions asked "what can we do about all of the illegal Mexicans draining the welfare system and taking jobs away from "Americans". Most of the responses chastized the asker and attempted to set her straight. I really got pissed, though, when one of the answers lauded her for her "insight". I just had to add my 2 cents.

Just two new points.
1. Yes, it is true that only citizens can receive welfare in the US. However, all children born in the US are considered citizens, making them eligible, even if their parents are not. So, yes, some illegals are a burden to the systems.
2. It is true that many illegal immigrants work at "stoop labor" in the fields and factories for short wages.
A solution may be found in a fair system of legal "guest laborer" status so employers can hire immigrant labor to do the jobs unemployed US workers won't or can't do.
At the same time, there needs to be a change in the unemployment compensation system in the US. I recently heard that there are millions of "workers" unemployed. At the same time people complain that "millions" of illegal immigrants are working the fields and factories. Instead of collecting money from tax payers to sit around and be choosy about what jobs they will or will not accept, everyone who registers for unemployment should be required to work "day labor" "short term temp" and any other employment for pay, even short pay. NO ONE should be permitted to turn down any job!!! Lets require all of the unemployed US workers to take these field and factory jobs for the same money and under the same conditions the Mexicans get. Then, perhaps the market for illegals would dry up.
Until these unemployed US workers are willing to get out into the fields and into the factories, illegals will. In the meantime, the next time you enjoy a salad or buy a "made in USA" pair of jeans, thank a Mexican laborer for his/her willingness to leave the safety of his/her family and cross an artificial line in the sand to make them for you.

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From my mind

FOX

I saw a fox today.

This, in itself, would not be remarkable only that I had never before seen a fox, in the wild, that is.

It was early this morning, really early.

A fresh coating of crystalline snow had fallen overnight.

The sun was at that perfect angle... at that point in the sky where everything gleams.

It's yellow glow reflected off the new snow, lighting up the tree line like limelight.

I really don't like to use words like "bounding". It sounds so 18th Century.

But this fox, it's bright crimson red coat in sharp contrast to the almost transparent white snow, was bounding.

There is no other word.

He couldn't have cared less that he was being watched.

The field was his to use as he saw fit.

He ran up one side, over to the middle, and down the other.

He jumped, rolled, and scurried (another word from 'ago')

And I truly believe I saw him laughing as he played.

He took notice of me when I put the car in gear, making a groaning sound.

As I drove away, I saw him leave the field and disappear into the woods.

Perhaps he did care, after all.

I'm sorry that I interrupted his enjoyment.

Embarrassed that I was caught in my voyeurism.

And ashamed that I enjoyed watching him so much. Perhaps jealous.

New One Act Play for your enjoyment

ACT I
Scene 1
Curtain is up at the beginning of the play
Stage is lit with harsh white light. The stage
should look like a show just closed and the sets
are in the process of being struck. There are some
small set pieces pushed to the upstage right and
left. One chair is set downstage center.

Off-stage sounds of a truck screeching to a halt
and a loud thud.

STANLEY enters stage left as if he has been thrust
out by force.
STANLEY
Wow, that was close! Did you see that? I was nearly run
down by that truck.
(Stanley notices that he is alone in a
different place than he was a second
ago.)
Wait a minute, where am I? Two seconds ago I was
crossing Broadway on my way to an audition. (panic)
Hello! Where is everybody? The street was crowded,
hundreds of people?
Stanley crosses to the chair and plops down. He
looks around and begins to wring his hands and
shake a little.
STANLEY (CONT)
This is very confusing.
(yelling)
What the fuck is happening to me? Where am I?
(quieter and frightened)
Did the truck really hit me? Am I dead? Did I die
right then and there? Oh, my God. Shit! Oh Christ,
what the...
(He looks around secretively, glancing
here and there)
Maybe this might be a good time to stop cursing. I
mean, if I’m dead than this must be(pause) where I wait
for... "Him".
There is a loud commotion from off stage, boxes
falling, furniture scraping across the floor, etc.
2.
HEATHER O.S.
Damn it! Who put that fucking crap there?. Shit! I have
a runner in my pantyhose. God Damn it!
HEATHER enters stage right, walks directly past
Stanley, not noticing him
STANLEY
Excuse me! Hello!
HEATHER
(She stops short staring downstage, then
slowly turns to Stanley and jumps back
in fear.)
Ah! What are you doing here? How did you get here? You
don’t belong here.
STANLEY
I don’t know where "here" is and I sure as hell don’t
know how I got here. I was crossing Broadway and...
HEATHER
You can’t stay here! I mean...Who did you say sent you?
(Stanley gets up and moves toward Heather. She
takes a Karate stance)
STANLEY
Whoa, wait a minute, I’m just trying to get to my
audition. I’m not going to do anything to you. Calm
down, will ya, for Christ sake. Who are you? And how
did you get here? I mean, you seem to at least know
where "here" is.
(Heather relaxes and Stanley moves
upstage center, examining the stage
walls and back drop curtain. Heather
matches his movements as she moves cross
stage to the opposite side)
(Stanley slowly realizes he recognizes
this stage)
I’ve been on this stage before. Many years ago when I
was in community theater. This is the stage of the
Omaha Community Playhouse.
HEATHER
Well, of course it is. Where do you think you are?
Broadway?
STANLEY
Well, ya, actually I am...was in New York, just before
I ended up here.
Heather’s Cell phone rings, State Fair theme ring
tone
3.
HEATHER
(perky)
Hi, this is Heather! - Ah huh, yup (she turns to look
at Stanley) Oh! What? - I see, well this changes
things. (pause) Okay doaky... ah huh... ah huh, yep...
OK, bye
Lighting focus transitions slowly from harsh white
to softer hues which bring out the actors features
and highlights the upstage scenery.
STANLEY
Was that call about me? What’s going on, God damn it? I
want to know what in hell is happening to me. Who was
that on the phone?
Stanley crosses to Heather and she takes the
karate stance again.
HEATHER
That was the Director. He wasn’t aware that you’re
here. Ah, you aren’t supposed to be...here. You didn’t
go to orientation, did you? Um, I, ah... You’re dead.
STANLEY
I’m what! What do you mean I’m dead?
HEATHER
Well you’re not dead, yet. I mean, you ARE dead, but
you’re not supposed to be. Here, that is.
STANLEY
Well am I dead or not? And I hope you say "not".
HEATHER
Oh, I hate this part. The Director usually handles
this. Oh, shit. You were hit by a truck and died.
STANLEY
I know it was close, but I didn’t get hurt, not even a
scratch.
HEATHER
Oh, you died alright. Splattered all over Broadway.
Guts smeared on the pavement. Your head came off and...
STANLEY
OK, OK I get the picture, very graphically. (pause)
What happened to my head?
4.
HEATHER
Well, lets just say that they need a new display window
at the Manhattan Mall. Really upset some people at the
Food Court. It ended up down by the McDonald’s, almost
went into the PATH station, but some French students
started playing soccer with it.
STANLEY
Oh Jeez, are you sure you mean me? I mean, here I am,
head and all. And if I’m dead, why aren’t I in heaven
or hell or whatever.
HEATHER
(very nervous)
Well, er, you see, Oh damn, I wish the director would
get here.
STANLEY
Tell me, how did I get here? And who is this Director
you keep talking about? Was that him on the phone?
HEATHER
Oh, I really don’t think I’m the right one to tell you
this, but you deserve some answers. So, here
goes. You’re dead, but you’re not supposed to be here.
You should have gone to orientation, first. There was a
mix up.
STANLEY
A mix up! What the hell does that mean?
HEATHER
This is hard enough without your interruptions, and,
frankly I could do with a little less of your attitude.
I’m doing the best I can.
STANLEY
OK, sorry, you’re right. Go on.
HEATHER
You are dead, and you are in what you know as heaven,
this is your heaven.
STANLEY
Heaven is Omaha? You’ve got to be kidding?
HEATHER
I asked you not to interrupt.
STANLEY
Sorry, but, come on, are you expecting me to believe
that not only am I dead, but Omaha, Nebraska is
heaven? Come on, I mean...
5.
Stanley begins to pace
HEATHER
OK I told you I was new at this and I AM doing the best
I can. I, or we, er, God... you do know about God,
don’t you? (pause) Well, it doesn’t matter if you know
or not. We, er, I, well, it’s just necessary to
believe. We are here, and that is all that really
counts.
STANLEY
What in the world are you rambling on about? Do I
believe? Does "what" really matter? Who, exactly is
"we"? Look, I’m just going to leave now. I’m obviously
in the wrong place, you said it yourself, I’m not
supposed to be here.
(Stanley exits stage left)
Stage goes to black


END OF SCENE ONE

SCENE TWO
Lights up with Heather sitting on the chair
talking on the phone
HEATHER
He just walked out.
(laughing)
Okay, Doaky, you’re the boss. Yeah...Yeah... Okay. I
think I hear him now. Bye!
There is commotion from off stage. The noise
tracks from stage left around upstage and down to
stage right
Stanley enters quickly from stage right and comes
up short
STANLEY
What the hell! What’s going on here?
Heather gets up and approaches Stanley. Stanley
takes a karate stance.
HEATHER
(with a pitiful laugh)
I was going to tell you, but you left in such a hurry.
You’re here now... You can’t leave.
6.
STANLEY
What do you mean I can’t leave? Am I being held
hostage? You can’t make me stay here.
HEATHER
I just talked to the director and he told me to answer
all your questions as truthfully as I feel you can
understand.
STANLEY
That’s a little condescending. I’m finding all of this
very confusing. And I’m more than a little scared. But
I’m not stupid.
HEATHER
Sit down, and I’ll start at the beginning.
(Stanley sits on the chair and Heather
pulls down a set piece to sit on)
First, the bad news. Everything you have been taught
about death, heaven, and God is false.
STANLEY
Let me get this straight, everything I was taught in
Church, Sunday School, and from my family and friends
has been a lie?
HEATHER
Pretty much... Ya! Well, not so much a lie more like a
long series of myths and misunderstandings, perpetuated
throughout what you know as history, and relied upon by
people who need someone or something beyond themselves,
to provide social order and behavioral expectations to
their lives.
STANLEY
Huh?
HEATHER
People made all that stuff up to make people conform
and to have someone to blame.
STANLEY
Oh...If that’s the bad news, what could possibly be the
good news?
HEATHER
The good news is that everything you believe about God
is the truth.
STANLEY
What I learned about God is false and what I believe
about God is true. Is that it. That’s crazy. My
beliefs are based on what I have been taught.
7.
HEATHER
I think you are beginning to get it! Tell me about
what you have learned about God. Be specific. What do
you know about God?
STANLEY
Let’s see. God is an all powerful being who created
heaven and earth in seven days about 6 million years
ago. He created man in his image and loves us
unconditionally. He sent his son to Earth about 2000
years ago to give the people hope and direction.
HEATHER
Is that so? Well about three quarters of the people on
Earth wouldn’t agree with you. What about the millions
of Muslims who are taught by the Koran? Or the Jews and
the Torah? And what about the billion people in China
who have been taught something completely different by
Chairman Mao? Are their teachings wrong?
STANLEY
Well, ya, I guess. No, not wrong, just different. I’m
confused. What about Jesus?
HEATHER
Ah, Jesus, what a guy...Handsome and VERY charismatic!
People really got his message. But turning him into
God, that was over the top.
STANLEY
Jesus wasn’t the son of God?
HEATHER
Yes, of course he was, just as you are. And everyone
else in the universe.
STANLEY
That’s the kind of talk that would’ve got you burned at
the stake a few hundred years ago.
HEATHER
It did.
Did you ever wonder where Jesus was from the time he
taught at the Temple and his time as a prophet? Those
unreported 20 years?
STANLEY
No, not really. But I bet you’re going to tell me.
HEATHER
Where do you think he got all of that ’peace and love’
stuff he talked so much about?
8.
STANLEY
I have thought about that, actually. It seems to me
that Jesus’ message about love and peace sounds a lot
like the teaching found in ancient Persia and India.
Buddhist and Hinduism, like that.
HEATHER
Very good! Of course those teachings are older than
that, long before any form of writing emerged on
Earth. And, of course, they had it wrong, too.
STANLEY
Now I’m getting confused and more than a little pissed
off.
HEATHER
Of course you are. All of this is very confusing if you
go by what people are ’taught’. Now, when you look at
the problem from a ’belief’ point of view, things fall
into place.
STANLEY
I think I get it. I took a class in comparative
religion in college and learned a little something
about a lot of religious teachings and practices. On an
academic level I tried to understand where the
teachings came from and what they meant to the people
at the time. All of those people can’t have been wrong.
It doesn’t matter in the end what you have been taught.
What matters is what you believe.
HEATHER
Exactly! No matter what people try to teach you and
what you have learned, It’s what you believe that
counts.
STANLEY
So everybody is wrong and everybody is right.
HEATHER
Right!
STANLEY
But what about religions? They all teach something and
most teach something different than the others. Are
they all wrong?
HEATHER
Well yes and no. All of the so called organized
religions have it wrong at the base. Each wants to
think that God is on their side and God is a member of
their religion. We know that can’t be. If that was the
case, there would be no such thing as Christians.
9.
STANLEY
What do you mean? Christians believe that God sent his
Son, Jesus, for their redemption.
HEATHER
Yeah, but was Jesus a Christian? No! He was a Jew, not
just a day to day Jew, but a teacher, a Rabbi. It’s the
followers of Jesus we know as Christians. And they have
it just as wrong as all the other religions.
STANLEY
So, following along with your train of thought,
everything Jesus taught was false.
HEATHER
Not at all. Everything Jesus preached he believed at
the core of his heart. So, for Jesus, everything he
believed was true, for him. The same for Mohammad,
Buddha, Mao, Luther, John Smith, and the rest. They all
believed what they preached. So, for them it was true.
STANLEY
This is beginning to get confusing again.
HEATHER
Even some of the most crazy and evil preachers in the
world, believed that what they were saying was true and
that their behavior was righteous and justified.
Everyone from the Egyptians persecuting the Jews, the
Romans against the early Christians, the Christians
against everyone who wasn’t Christian, all the way down
to the Catholics, who at one time or another have been
against everyone else. And most recently the Muslims
demanding everyone become Muslim. All collectively
wrong and at the same time, individually right in their
beliefs.
(Heather’s cell phone rings. Amazing
Grace is the ring tone)
Stage goes black

END OF SCENE TWO

SCENE THREE
Heather and Stanley are seated on the chair and
set piece, respectfully. The lighting has softened
and the stage looks cozy and warm. Heather is
talking on the phone.
HEATHER
He’s coming around, but I still don’t understand why
you want him to stay....Yeah...No!...Noooo...I can’t do
that!...Listen, your the director, you get your ass
down here and direct.(pause) I’m sorry, but this is
just more than I can handle...Okay...Okay. Thank you,
Sir.
STANLEY
Trouble with the Boss? Directors can be such pains in
the ass... God complexes, most of them. Always
expecting the PA’s to do the dirty work and never truly
appreciating the demands of they put on them.
HEATHER
"God complex"...interesting choice of phrase...So, do
you get it now?
STANLEY
Get what? That I’m dead? Yeah. That, in the end it
doesn’t really matter what you’ve been taught, it’s
what you believe that’s true.
HEATHER
Right! Why?
STANLEY
Why? What? What do you mean?
HEATHER
I mean...Why does it matter what you believe and not so
much what you have been taught?
STANLEY
What is this, Death School? I don’t know. I guess it
matters because...(thinking) because the way we behave
is based on our beliefs, not our knowledge! We make
choices according to what we believe. Yeah! That’s it.
HEATHER
That’s it, precisely.
STANLEY
But I’m still a little hazy on how this stage in Omaha
can be heaven.
HEATHER
What do you know about heaven? Where is it? What’s it
like?
STANLEY
All I know is what I’ve been taught... Oh, I see. What
I KNOW is wrong. It’s what I believe
that’s...true. But if that’s right, I must believe
that this stage is heaven.
11.
HEATHER
Tell me about your time as an apprentice with the Omaha
Community Playhouse. What was it like.
STANLEY
Oh, it was great. I had a wonderful time. I spent every
waking minute there. Learning all about theater, from
the inside. The stagecraft tricks mixed with the
glamor and beauty of the productions... One minute I
was painting scenery and the next running lines with
the actors. (weeping a little) I loved that theater.
I felt like I was in heav...en!
Stage goes to work lights. Workers enter carrying
set pieces, scenery, etc. Heather blends in. The
place sounds like a working theater, power tools
whining, people yelling to each other, etc.
Director enters stage left. He carries a clipboard
and a walkie-talkie.
DIRECTOR
Are you the new kid? Steven?
STANLEY
Stanley... Yeah, I guess I am.
DIRECTOR
Come on then, I’ll get you started
they walk upstage

FADE TO BLACK
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